Actual English 9 – Dating and Marriage

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Actual English

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M: So Rachel, *I hear you’re getting married soon?

W: I am.

M: Amazing! Did you always plan to get married?

W: No, I never thought I was going to get married at this age, but I was also never the type to plan out my life… when I’m going to meet my *future husband and when we’re going to get married or I’m going to have kids. I just let nature take its course, and it worked out the way it did.

• (to allow someone or something to live or die naturally ** to allow something to happen naturally) future ~ I hope to meet my future husband within two years. now ~ I met my now husband five years ago. then ~ My then wife was two years older than me.

M: I think its best just to see how it goes.

W: Did you have a time frame? Did you know you were going to get married at this age and have kids at this age?

• (a period of time during which something has taken or will take place) (·We're talking about a time frame of five minutes for the meeting.)

M: If I’m honest, then yes because I kind of planned what age I’d get married and what age I’d have a kid. It was 28 getting married, 29 to have a kid and so before 30, I would have a family. And it actually worked out that way.

W: Congratulations!

M: But as I got older, I forgot about that and I just kind of dated… I met a *fair share of girls, but not too many. But dating was really *hit and miss. There were some good experiences, some terrible experiences. Once you’re married it’s kind of like a safe haven.

W: That’s true. For me, I was kind of carefree about dating. But I did think seriously about dating in the sense that I wasn’t just going to date anybody. If I was going to date someone, it would have to be with the thought of, “Do I have a future with this person?” So that’s the way I looked upon dating. I thought seriously about it before I jumped into a relationship.

M: You just dated the special ones and it’s worked out well and I’m sure as a marriage senior you’re going to love it.

W: I look forward to it.

 

• fair share (the amount of something that one is due relative to what other people are receiving) I had a fair share of enemies at my workplace. We got a fair share of rain this summer. 
• hit and miss / hit or miss (carelessly; aimlessly; without plan or direction) They gave away free tickets hit and miss. My friend got five and I only got one.
• (carefree: free of worries and responsibilities)

 

Actual Story

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(Actual Interview Question: What was dating like in your 20s and 30s? And what is marriage like?)

 

I used to like good-looking guy when I was in my early 20s. But you know, I don’t mean that good looking is just appearance and tall, being tall but also the face expressions and impressions and also the way they talk and act. And I guess, as I grow old, personality is more important because that can actually affect your relationship. You know, I’m looking for someone who can grow old with. And when I get married and have a family, then I’ll try really hard to have a really good family and take care of them. Because I guess having a good family can boost your career and other parts of life. So I would say having a good family can be number one priority. So I would do anything to keep my family happy.

I used to like good-looking guys (when I was) in my early 20s. I used to like bad boys when I was in my 20s. I used to fall for girls that played hard to get in college. As I grew older, personality became more important. As I grew older, trust became more important. I’m looking for someone that I can grow old with. I would do anything to keep my family happy. I would do anything to protect my family.